Mave Serenova

Free tool · for neurodivergent people, families and friends

Can We Relate? Discover neurodivergent behaviours

A playful place to explore the ways brains and bodies can work differently. Flip the cards, notice what feels familiar, and try the sensory playground. Too much? Switch on Calm mode at the top: colours soften and everything keeps still.

Nothing you tap leaves this device. No login, no tracking. Sound is off unless you turn it on.

Every brain is wired differently. Tap around. Notice what you notice.

Tap or click the bubbles to pop them, or use the button.

Start discovering

Discover the behaviours

Each card shows something you might see on the outside. Turn it over to find out what it can feel like on the inside, why it helps, and how other people can support. Tap 🙋 Me too or 💛 Someone I love on any card that feels familiar.

Lots of people do these things. Doing one, or many, doesn't mean you have a diagnosis.

    Can you relate? My relate map

    Your picks from the cards, gathered up. Solid bars are Me too. Striped bars are Someone I love.

      Relating doesn't mean a diagnosis. It means you're human, and maybe wired a little differently. If you want to explore it, talk to your GP.

      Your picks are saved in this browser only.

      Sensory playground

      Little stims to try. There's no right way to use them. Stop whenever you like.

      🎨 Colour mixer

      Why it can soothe: slow, smooth changes give your eyes something gentle to follow.

      🌀 Fidget spinner

      Tap or press to give it a flick.

      Why it can soothe: a repeating movement keeps your hands busy so your mind can settle or focus.

      ✨ Texture taps

      Tap a tile to change its pattern. Arrow keys move between tiles.

      Why it can soothe: patterns you control feel predictable, and the small "click" of change is satisfying.

      🧸 Weighted blanket

      Why it can soothe: firm, even pressure (like a big hug) helps some bodies feel safe and grounded. Real weighted blankets aren't safe for babies or young children, so ask an occupational therapist first.

      Difference, not less

      🌍 The world can be the barrier

      The social model of disability says people are often disabled by places and systems that weren't built with them in mind. A noisy classroom, a ringing phone, a vague instruction. Change the setting, and a lot of "problems" shrink.

      🎭 Masking is tiring

      Masking means hiding or copying behaviours to fit in: forcing eye contact, holding back a stim, rehearsing small talk. It can keep someone safe, but doing it all day often leads to exhaustion later. Places where people can unmask are precious.

      🌟 Strengths count too

      Deep focus, noticing detail, honesty, creativity, big-picture thinking, loyalty, humour, energy. Every person is different, but neurodivergent brains bring a lot. Name the strengths out loud, often.

      Try this, if you're a…

      👪 Parent or carer

      • Ask "what would help?" before stepping in.
      • Give warnings before changes, with a "first, then".
      • Make home a place they can unmask and stim freely.
      • Join in with their special interest, even for five minutes.

      🍎 Teacher or support worker

      • Allow fidgets, movement breaks and ear defenders.
      • Give instructions in writing as well as out loud.
      • Offer a quiet space without it being a punishment.
      • Watch for children holding it together, then crashing at home.

      🤝 Friend or partner

      • Say what you mean. Hints are hard work.
      • A message first is often kinder than a surprise call.
      • Don't take a quiet day personally.
      • Believe them about what hurts, even if it doesn't bother you.

      Where to find support (UK)

      If you'd like to explore a possible diagnosis, your GP is a good first step. For children, you can also talk to their school's SENCO or your health visitor.

      If you're struggling, you don't have to manage alone. Call Samaritans free on 116 123, any time of day or night. If someone is in danger right now, call 999.

      Tell me what would help. Is there a behaviour I've missed, or a card that doesn't feel right to you? I'd love to hear from neurodivergent people and families. Send feedback.

      A discovery tool, not a diagnosis or screening test.